Wednesday, November 9

Inspiration from & Kathleen

I'm going to do something a little non-traditional with this post, and simply share another blogger's post with you. Jeremy & Kathleen  is one of my favorite blogs of all time, and I always go there for inspiration, whether in design or for advice like the post below

I found this particular post to be really helpful and it spoke tons to me, so I thought I'd share it with all of you. More and more as I get older I find myself facing bigger and more "important" problems, and it was really helpful to take a step back and define how I deal with problems into three simple categories. Kathleen explains it all perfectly, which is why I wanted to share her post with you.



Sometimes I don't even know that I'm scared until I feel the fight-or-flight-or-freeze sensation bubbling up from the pit of my stomach. The idea is that when animals or prehistoric humans were confronted with a threat the stress response was fight-or-flight-or-freeze. So no, I'm not being attacked by a lion or trying to protect my baby from a dingo but I am going through tremendous amounts of growth that push me out of my comfort zone. And with that I'm feeling the need to fight, flight or freeze.

FIGHT: I get aggressive and shitty. I buzz with unkind energy - directed at both myself and others.

FLIGHT: I start fantasizing about living in a cabin in the middle of the woods. Jeremy's out back chopping wood and I'm in an apron cuddling a little baby with ruddy cheeks and a white onesie.

FREEZE: Freeze only lasts for a few seconds at a time before fight-or-flight kicks in. Freeze is that moment where I find myself in a blank stare and wondering to myself "what am I doing?"

Obviously, flight is my favorite stress response method - because it pretends to be productive. And sometimes it is. But lately, when I feel the need to fight-or-flight-or-freeze I recognize that it's a symptom to let me know that I'm growing - that I'm stretching - and that if I can hold the position and stay the course for just a little bit longer I will be a better person for it.


I hope you all got as much from this post as much as I did! Do you all agree with Kathleen's perspective? Or do you have other methods of dealing with things?

love, rudi

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